It might be useful to teach college graduates or even teens to identify, and account for things in our lives. To account for whether they can be controlled, or influenced, or not at all.
Too many of us live our lives thinking we can control everything. This happens at the level of governments, corporations, and even individuals. If we just take a moment to reflect and recognise how poor even our self-control is, we’d realise that trying to exert control over things typically end up with misery.
And that’s why being obsessed with outcomes is very toxic. And at an individual level, attempting to control outcomes in order to emerge as the champion often can have bad results for the society as a whole. As a society, we can invest more into how to encourage a different culture; not one where individuals all grasp at things but aspire to be something, for the community.