Category Archives: Life

I’ve been in Ghana, at a village in central region, where people would spend time in the afternoon having tea together and just watching vehicles and livestock pass the village without doing much. They probably did a lot of work in the morning already at their fields and it was too hot to work anyways. So they rested.

In New Zealand, the dairy industry peaks at a certain period where the cycles of the cows’ lactation were somehow optimised. People worked intensively during the peak periods and then there would be lull periods where people worked shorter hours and produced much less.

In many sectors and aspects of life, there are seasons, cycles and time of activity, and lull. Yet the modern, urban life seems to think that productivity is achieved by squeezing every ounce of time, forgetting that resting can be productive. The mobile devices we carry with us do indeed give us greater ability to do work on the fly but all that attention, and capacity might be wearing us thin and wearing us out.

Over the past decades where we experienced the most improvements in quality of life and changes in standards of living in the world, it was mostly when productivity was gained through the world working together more and more, through trade and international supply chains, smoothing out volatility through more accurate transmission of price and volume signals. Taking this to the next level, of individual productivity, will unlikely make that much of a dent for the progress of humanity even if it makes one feel great.

Perhaps then, it’s time to recognise the cycles and seasons we ought to have in our lives.

This is going to be a very light-hearted and very Singaporean piece.

I put on my shorts, don on my SAF admin tee before carrying a NDP tote bag with some NTUC vouchers and tissue packets, slipping on my sandals preparing to leave the house. Yes, I honestly can’t really be bothered with how I dress especially when going around the neighbourhood. And these days, neighbourhood can even consist of shopping for stuff or dinning out at Orchard Road. It dawned on me that I’ve basically become an uncle since many years ago. Yes, I also drink Teh Si Kosong or Kopi Si Kosong, mainly because sugar free, and my childhood asthma has given me a hot-drink habit.

I wonder what being an uncle really is. At the most superficial level, it’s just having a niece or nephew. Or friends with kids? But really, entering uncle-hood is about going past the level of maturity of a youth concerned about how he looks and the impression he gives ladies. It is when you embrace the freedom of being able to dress and speak comfortably with less restraint from the social confidence of having been around long enough.

After all, uncles are the ones carrying Decathlon small Quecha bags (which used to cost $3.90 but now $4.90 due to inflation), wearing Decathlon tees and shorts, or often also some other tees either from Thailand or bought from some other Pasar Malam (in pre-covid era).

This is not to be confused with ‘boomer uncles’. They take uncle-hood to another level. They are prudent about expenditures, often complaining about price increases. They take an interest in politics and current affairs, politely offering their feedback on a range of policies to younger ones, without necessarily desiring to take change into their own hands.

But there are also pretty great uncles, like Mr Loo Cheng Chuan of the 1M65 movement, who have been doling out less conventional advice and wisdom. As an influencer, he’s been really active and have generated a following with his genuine, Singaporean-style sharing without too much of the embellishments that is out to impress.

When we step into the workforce from university, the transition feels quite natural. It is more of a change of cars than shifting of gears so we are more receptive of change and open to whatever culture we may have to learn and fit in. Whatever we pick up at the job will be seen as “what’s how work life is like”. So we accept it because we generalise it.

But what if we knew things can be different? We can have more holidays, we don’t have to stay in office past 7pm, or how things can work well differently? Then it might be harder for us to accept. So it is critical that we know our possibilities. Not the vague ones but real concrete ones – through work offers, actual job experiences.

That’s why in your second or third job, it gets harder to make compromises, and you become more assertive. And in today’s job markets where labour is tight, companies are often complaining about workers switching or being self-entitled. The truth is that companies can no longer just force staff to fit into a culture but to hire for a culture they want to create, and have that culture attract more of the people we want to work with.

I’m not saying you should be switching jobs often and keep tempting yourself with other offers; but it is important to recognise that the possibilities are limited to the boundaries that you define for yourself within the environment. And whether you’re trying to fit into that small tight space, or something much bigger.

When you share your problems with a friend, or with the team, or even the organisation whom you think is at fault, are you venting or trying to come up with a solution. In reality, a problem always bifurcates into two separate issues, one being the actual fact of something unresolved, and the other being the worries, projections of the future implications of the unresolved problems weighing down on one emotionally.

Often, we need to deal with the emotional aspect of the problem before we can deal with the physical aspects. And that is the reason customer service is so important, the sense that someone is on the other end of the line, listening, empathising and working with you to move towards something helps lay the foundation for solving the genuine problem. But then we have to be frank and open to ourselves and those we are engaging, that we are venting, and not in the mode for working on solutions yet.

Because there will be people who don’t want to deal with your venting nonsense; they prefer to get down to the problem rather than dance around it. They would be really happy to work with you to get to a solution though. So be clear what are your objectives – to yourself, as well as others. When you are ready for the solution, and to get on with the hard work, you can then get on to the real problem-solving.

The removal of mid-year examinations was heralded as a bit of a success to move away from the traditional education system that was seen as rigid, fixated on testing. But it has caused anxiety once again as the main stakeholders including parents, teachers and students themselves became unsure whether more stakes are going to be piled on the end-of-year examination and they also wonder what kind of measure would be a good way of knowing where the student is by way of mastering the materials.

If you ask me, the exams were a poor way to determine the level of mastery of the students anyways. And ultimately, it is not exams that we need to abolish but the attitude of over-emphasizing it. I still remember distinctly my Chinese teacher for Secondary 3 and 4 telling the class, ‘grades are not important; what is important is the process’ but goes on to get students to memorise the materials in order to score A1 on exam. He took away my motivation to gain true mastery of the subject when he gave me 2/3 for forming my own sentences rather than regurgitating the ones he gave us to memorise. When asked why I was marked down, he said it was easier for him to mark and determine that I was correct when I gave him a ‘perfect answer’ which I was supposed to memorise.

This overall society’s idea of education as being about perfect answers, grades and studying for exams, is what is preventing us from truly moulding a future.

I’ve been thinking more and more about cognitive flexibility and I begin to realise that besides being able to drop our expectations immediately once reality deviates, it is also important to stop dwelling on mistakes. Rather, it is to use mistakes in the right way. For immediate mistakes, that has no real impact, like a wrong word used in a speech, it’s great to be able to gloss over it and continue with the performance.

For those that takes longer to be revealed, it is important that we respond to it by ensuring that we can take follow-up actions so that you can turn whatever comes up into something of value. To look upon ‘mistakes’ as opportunities to right a course, but not to necessary try to restore things to what we had originally expected. Rather, make it better, in view of the context of things.

That is the great wisdom from Miles Davies.

For the longest time since internet became really very much a thing towards the end of the 2000s; there were memes coming up about the additional layers within Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. So before food, shelter and health stuff, comes wifi and below that, battery power. Yes that seemed like the experience of a typical millennial.

Today, I’m musing about what is on top and it is typically labelled ‘self-actualisation’ but as Matt Davis would cover in this article, Maslow himself discovered a different pinnacle that we are all yearning towards. To some extent, this concept of self-transcendance is a bit complex and there’s a lot of spiritual considerations but I think the better description is what was first described by Victor Frankl and recorded in the APA Dictionary of Psychology:

The state in which an individual is able to look beyond himself or herself and adopt a larger perspective that includes concern for others. Some psychologists maintain that self-transcendence is a central feature of the healthy individual, promoting personal growth and development.

So basically the idea of promoting and looking to serve the needs of others rather than just oneself. To expand ones’ circle of care and concern beyond just oneself. I find it remarkable as a Christian, that at the end of the day, our deepest, greatest need extends in a large part for much more than ourselves.

My first lesson in Economics was about scarcity. It suggests that economics is needed and considered because there is scarcity. Likewise, in my first job, where I was involved in lots of strategy work, my boss told me, that scarcity is what underlies strategy. We need strategies because there’s no abundant resources. We need to pick how to allocate our resources to achieve our objectives.

And then one day, one of my junior consultants fantasised over lunch how great it would be when the world has the technology to provide us unlimited amount of energy and hence all that we need for everyone in the world. Well, I work for a strategy consulting firm that focuses on the energy transition – so in case you’re wondering why energy. I gently reminded him that scarcity is in part caused by our unlimited wants and desires – that abundance in the world is not going to solve that fundamental challenge.

I now realised that even more fundamental the incompatibility lies in the fact that we humans are limited in the ability to even consume our wants. Therefore, true abundance lies within our own minds and wants. Of course, there’s a minimum threshold of resources we all need to survive. But beyond that, the richness of our lives really depends on our own perception, perspectives and our beliefs about how our lives should be lived. Tell yourself the wrong story, and you are going down a dream of abundance; and with the right story, you’re heading down an abundant life itself.

A friend was introducing me to this concept of cognitive flexibility. I must say it is probably a concept I know of before I had the chance to put a name to it but it definitely is a very important skill. But before going further into it, I’d like to introduce the idea that really underlies the ability to be cognitively flexible. It has to do with recognising the probabilistic nature of the world.

We all struggle with uncertainty and the fact multiple outcomes are all possible at the same time. Life is fuzzy and things are subjected to chance; by realising that things are not all-or-nothing kind of binary, and recognising that decisions are bets, we give ourselves the chance for reality to deviate from our expectations. And we learn to react better emotionally, not thinking we have lost because the world went the other way. The world did not reject us; it did not leave without us. It’s just that we had held on to our expectations even when reality came by.

Cognitive flexibility requires that we drop those expectations once reality plays out; that we toss out the lottery ticket once the winning numbers are out. How fast are you able to discard your expectations?

When Singapore was a young nation, there was a recognition of the place for the market to operate and do its job in creating competition, enhancing quality of life but this was not done blindly. Regulations were in place to ‘distort’ the market in a way that benefit the society.

We have one of the highest amounts of taxes imposed on car ownership, through various revenue instruments and it has brought in a lot of revenue for the government. Likewise when we set out to liberalise the electricity market sector in Singapore, it was about discovering the marginal cost of electricity generation and being able to pass on the savings to the consumers. Yet when the market turns against the consumers during a period of gas shortage, it is important to recognise that the original intent of the market is to serve the consumers while sustaining the industry anyways so we can’t just throw our hands into the air and say it’s the consumers’ own issue.

The market can drive good outcomes within a narrow band and where we want the market to operate within and deliver. But it takes regulation and framework set up to ensure the market is operating within the right context. When policy is the main driver, one cannot be caught up with trying to leave as much things as possible to the market. It is necessary to look at everything about the market and its tendencies in order to guide it towards the outcomes we are looking for.